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If you have read anything about body language, the chances are you have heard that 90% of communication is non-verbal. The actual origin of this slightly distorted statistic is the research of Dr. Albert Mehrabian who concluded in his 1971 study Silent Messages that communication in every conversation is 7% words, 38% sound of voice and 55% facial expression. Consequently, the 90% (or rather 93%) of all communication is body language is born. However, it would be wrong to assume that the majority of communication is made through body language. In everyday life, we don’t usually negate what people say, so what becomes interesting about body language and how body language become useful is in relation to what is being said.
For patients with advanced dementia, phsyical appearance is a significant factor in the assessment of pain because of the reduced ability for verbal communication, but in almost other cases a nurse would not rely on how a patient is acting to suggest how much pain a patient is in, they would ask the patient. Similarly, if someone is sitting with their arms and legs crossed and has an annoyed look on their face, you are probably not going to talk to them. In this case, body language is 100% of the communication, but the only way to make sure is to speak to them. Body language betrays you by exposing your feelings and attitude, yet it is your words and their relation to your body language that are truly central to your communication.
Despite the importance of body language in communication, without the verbal part of the communication, non-verbal communication is quite limited. It is the combination of words and body language that betrays you, especially when what you say and how you act do not match. Mehrabian labelled congruence or consistency between body language and words to be a crucial element of the study of non-verbal communication; looking for when a person’s words and actions do or do not match.
But surely if a person hasn’t studied body language you have nothing to worry about? Before there were books on body language, people were picking up on the signs without being total aware of what they were picking up on. When someone says they are happy but don’t act happy, you aren’t going to need a book on body language to help you read the signs. Even if the person you have been talking has not read the books, it is highly likely that your body language will betray you.
As you venture out into your day to day dealings with other people, what you need to be concerned with is not how you act, but how you act in relation to what you say. Your body language can be all erratic and excited if you are saying excited things, but, if you act erratic when you are lying, the situation is different.
But, if you are telling the truth, why would you want to fake body language? The answer is simply that we are only human. When we say nice things to our partners or talk to our bosses, sometimes we are just too tired or just not interested. We can be talking about the one thing that we think is the most interesting or exciting thing in the world, but if we are hungry, or tired, or ill, or just having a bad day, the words we use might be enthusiastic but our body language will betray us.
How do you fake it? Most experts say you can’t fake body language. This is good news if you have read ‘top ten signs she likes you’ or ‘how to tell if he is lying.’ But if you are trying to make yourself look good then, this could be a problem.
So what do we do? The simple answer is we increase the incongruence between what we say and our body language. We increase incongruence in two ways:
This first thing we can do is be honest. Don’t try to sound too enthusiastic if you are not. If you are feeling tired don’t try and compensate by being overly excited. You can be excited, but don’t over do it. If you disagree with someone don’t lie to them. As much as possible, merely avoid directly answering them. So, when your girlfriend or friend asks “Do I look fat in this?” respond with a “You look great” or “You look good in that dress” and then try to change the subject. Whether you say yes or no, you are probably lying. So don’t answer the question. Don’t avoid the subject, but don’t directly answer the question.
The second thing we can do is to be aware of how you are acting and do something different. Congruence is about continuity, if you cast doubt on the continuity of the signs, you should be able to make reading them difficult and so disrupt congruence.
Although telling the truth can be a delicate business, disrupting the congruence of your body language will require you to think about how you are feeling and to know a little something about body language. It doesn’t require a great deal of information, but you should be aware that body language is usually considered to function in clusters, so what you are doing with your arms is only relevant if it relates to the expression on your face and how you are standing. When you need to ensure someone is not reading everything about you from your body language, you will want to break down the clusters of your actions and consequently disrupt congruence.
Areas of body language to focus on:
Facial expressions: if you are feeling bored then show interest, if you are happy show a little sadness, if you have nothing to say make like you want to say something. When whoever you are speaking to gives you the opportunity to speak and you don’t, they will begin to question their own understanding of you.
Eye contact: the failure to maintain eye contact shows lack of interest or deception. Aggressively maintained eye contact displays a desire to dominate another person. Judge your own feelings and intentions and adjust eye contact accordingly.
Touch: attraction is displayed by physical touch. In a dating situation, if a woman begins to touch, however innocently, another person, she is showing interest in them. Avoid inappropriate touching. In the workplace, inappropriate touching is anything more than a handshake. Do touch in interpersonal relationships. You might feel tried, but your partner will really appreciate that hug.
Arms and legs: your posture betrays all kinds of things about you. Two elements to be aware of are pointing arms and legs and the open or closed body posture. Often we show interest in someone by pointing our arms and legs towards them. If we are not interested and ready to go, we may point our limbs towards the door in an effort to be ready when it really is time to go. On a very basic level the open or closed body posture is the difference between crossed arms and legs and uncrossed arms and legs. The closed body says “I am not interested or listening.” An open body says the opposite.
Tone of voice: how do you speak normally? Are you a loud fast talker, a slow quite speaker? Think about how you sound when you are angry. Don’t get too carried away. You don’t want the boss to think you are aggressive when you are just tired, but do think about volume, speed, tone and infusing your voice with a little emotion.
Your body language is going to betray you. An uncontrollable incongruence between how you are acting and what you are saying is going say something you don’t want it to. Think about what you want to say and how you feel, and then do something else entirely. A little disruption goes a long way.
Disrupting body language can be hard work and is not something you would want to do all the time. If you use it regularly on an unusually perceptive friend, they will pick up on your signals and see through your strategy. If you disrupt congruence when you are feeling uncertain, you can fight back against the betrayal of body language.
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Body Language Flirting with Women
You tend to be visibly shy around women, particularly when the is very gorgeous. It’s idiotic isn’t it. How a pretty woman can make you instantly clam up and crawl back into your shell, afraid that she might reject you for some reason or another. What’s even more out of the ordinary is how this is so common amongst guys, yet they won’t even share this feeling with their buddies.
When you are shy around women, it can be unpleasant to work up the nerve to even approach a woman, much less flirt with her. The disturbed thing is though. If you don’t approach her, you will never have the option of actually taking her on a date in the first place. Or having her phone you in the evening for a chat. Now I know your not nutty enough to actually think that watching television is better than taking out a gorgeous women for a date now, heah?
No man would. In my book no normal fella would do this anyway.
Gaining confidence around women when you are shy is just something that you will have to do. And really, there is no better way than learning how female attraction actually works, what makes a woman fall for a guy, and knowing that you can possess those qualities and those skills and remove just about any and all fear of rejection that you could feel when you are around a attractive, sexy woman.
Body language is the most significant aspect you will need to know in order to successfully flirt with women. This is especially so when the majority of interaction at first won’t involve any conversation but more of a glancing at each other across the room and smiles hopefully. The most essential thing to her will be your body language and this will determine how she will respond to you. When you can use body language flirting with a woman, then you can make her fall in love with you, as she sees that you are the ONE guy that just seems to get her.
This will inevitably create a great sense of attraction with a women, the kind of attraction she just won’t be able to resist.
Okay so lets jump into some body language flirting tips, whcih you can use on a women you think is stunning.
1. Okay so confidence is okay. So your boday language must let her know that you are confident.
Women will believe in your confidence but only if your body language allows her to think that you are confident in yourself. See, most body language interpretation happens on a subconscious layer. Even if you are still feeling uneasy… If you walk like a man then this will give of an air of confidence which she will pick up on. You have to make a women feel safe and secure when she is with you.. If your body language says that you are not confident. Then you won’t make her feel this way.
2. You have to be able to work your way close to her.
One of the most powerful ways to attract and flirt with a woman using body language is to get close to her. Getting close will reveal exactly how she feels about you and will
Here are some more tips on on how to read a woman’s body language:
1. You have to look for universal signs that she is showing.
Unless you already know her or have been around her a lot, then it is going to be hard to get a real baseline reading to know the little intricacies to her unique body language. So, you might as well just toss that idea out the window. However, there are many universal signs that you can look for that should be able to really give you a much more accurate take on what her body language is revealing.
2. To read a woman’s body language, you need to pay attention to her reactions.
Let’s say that you kind of have your eye on a woman already. And you see that another guy is approaching her. Now, is the time that you want to really pay attention. See what he is doing and how she is reacting to it. If he seems to be making all of the right moves, and she is not really being open to him, take that as a sign that tonight is just not the night to approach her. If she is warm, but still turns him away, then you can take a guess that she just did not like his game, and you can come in and do a better job.
3. Your body language can change her reaction.
Let’s say that she does seem a little on the frigid side. Well, if you are not making it seem like you are open to her, then what would you expect her reaction to be. You need to make sure that you are not just trying to get a read on her, but you are also sending her the right signals as well.
Actions do speak louder, much louder, than words. If every action and gesture could only be instantly converted to real and communicative words, you would be surprised to hear the loudest screams from every action.
Some people have unconsciously given out the real content of their hearts and of their minds through actions. That is why through the years, communication experts and researchers have spent a great deal of time looking closely at body language.
Body language
Body language clearly and effectively conveys ideas, feelings and thoughts. Thus, looking a person straight in the eye and with great intensity, could convey the lust and passion one person is feeling for the other.
Sometimes, people develop the uncanny ability of communicating just through mere eye contacts. People with that ability are said to have developed the great sense of rapport.
Anger, admiration, security, doubt, happiness, disappointment, lust, passion, sadness and all other emotions can be communicated and conveyed even without the use of words. The art and function of body language would have to take its toll.
Some obvious and common body language
You might have probably learned a little practical body language lessons and knowledge by observing the gestures and actions of your parents, office mates, or partner.
For example, when your partner is talking to you, and he or she suddenly crosses his or her arms, that should be a great warning to you that your partner is having some insecure moments and he or she wants to conceal that from you.
Crossing one’s arms is a great body language, somehow a reflex that means the person is protective of himself or herself. That means that his or her sense of self security is put at risk, and he or she will protect it to the extent that he or she would have to attack others’
Justification would be the more appropriate and effective word for that reaction. When someone does that while talking to you, beware, and do not rub much into the person’s face. Otherwise, you would rub some wound and could be reverted back to you.
Another body language or gesture would be the handshake.
Handshakes are common in the civilized world. Through handshakes, people firm up and symbolize openness and willingness to open up to a new acquaintance.
Loose handshakes could indicate lack of interest. If you met a new friend or acquaintance and the handshake was not that firm, it means the person is not that open and happy to having known you.
Firm handshakes on friends mean that the other person looks at you significantly and that person value and treasure you as a friend. He or she wants to keep a firm grip on your friendship, which is a really good actuation or symbol.
How to deal with negative body language
Of course there are also gestures and body languages that depict and clearly point out negative emotions and feelings.
When encountering such gestures from people, you are sometimes put up to a difficult and compromising situation. The best thing to do during instances like these is to keep your focus and self confidence.
If your conscience is clear, and you are harboring no ill feelings or intention toward people, you should not be afraid and uncomfortable.
The body is there for a lot of functions. Doing out tasks is not the limit to the body. Conveying messages and feelings would further be made effective by the support and use of body language.
J Gerlits
As a woman, when you get an intuition that a guy is interested in you, it’s mostly a true one and you can simply bank on it.
So finding out if a man really likes you could just be about making a double-check on your intuition or gut feeling. Nevertheless, there are women who doubt their intuition and would like more concrete evidence to determine if a man digs her. So in this article we have listed down the body language of men which indicate whether he likes you or not.
Body language of men – does he like you? Women are much more adept at controlling their body language than men are, the reason could lie in the psychological fact that women are more in touch with their body than men. Men are poor at manipulating their body language and so in most cases their unconscious actions are signals of their feelings.
Let’s make it clear, some men are just too obvious in their approach – they make steady eye contact, they give you their flashy or flirty smile, they get close into your personal space, they try to initiate conversation and start asking for your number after a few pleasantries.
Such men are “pros”, or maybe even players, when it comes to dealing with women – but these are the minority. Most men are not so obvious about their interest, and may even be insecure about expressing their attraction.
These men display subtle signs to show that they like you or are attracted to you, these are the signs we will discuss here.
Here are some body language signs of men when they are attracted to a woman Tentative Eye Contact – It might come as a surprise to many women but most men tend to be shy about making eye contact with the woman they feel strongly attracted to.
If you catch a man looking at you when you are not looking in his direction, and who swiftly turns his glance away the moment you look at him, it would indicate that he secretly finds you attractive (it may not be love, but he’s definitely attracted).
If you find a guy making sheepish eye contact with you, ever so often, it’s a sure shot sign of his attraction for you. If a guy leers at you, or gives you blatant flirty looks, it shows he’s interested but in a “lusty” sort of way. It suggests that he finds you hot, and you trigger sexual attraction in him.
So if this is not the kind of relationship you are looking for, then just give him a cold shoulder.
If a guy is not attracted to a girl, or when he does not have a love interest, he will not be shy of making eye contact and mostly it would be a casual or an uninterested one.
Of course, it’s true that there are some confident males who make direct eye contact with the woman they want to get up close with, but with these men the signs are so in the face that you don’t need to read an article on whether he’s interested or not.
The warm smile – When in love, guys are less likely to display “flirty” behavior and more likely to behave in a “gentlemanly” manner.
Most of them would display a warm smile to show their respect, adoration or admiration for you. If you feel a warmth, and respect, in his smile, it’s an indication that he finds you pretty (rather than “hot”) and may have gushy feelings of love for you, rather than testosterone pumped lust. So a warm smile is a good thing, and it suggests the possibility of love interest.
You might even see a guy smiling nervously at you, with an uncertain half smile.
This indicates that he’s is attracted to you but feels “insecure” about his chances with you.
You can put him at ease by returning a warm smile, then the next time he sees you he will be more assured in his smile. Watch His Adam’s Apple – When you talk to a guy, who is normally confident, and if you see him a little “flustered” in your company, or blushing, with a bobbing Adam’s apple, it can be a quick give away of his feelings for
Flirting Body Language Signs Of Attraction
During pre-historic times, humans already have a way of applying flirting body language to show the opposite sex that they like what they see. Of course, we were a bit more frank then, and the codes were easier to decipher. Nowadays, we have already learned the art of subtlety, which makes the whole thing more challenging and exciting.
Over the years, man’s flirting body language has evolved into something more mysterious. We have even forgotten our ancestors’ direct-to-the-point ways – only using those skills on a purely unconscious level. Below are some examples to help you along.
Flirting Body Language # 1: The Hand That Feeds You
Some people like to flirt with others by feeding them fruit or a bit of cake from their own hand or utensil. Usually, this practice is done by lovers. However, more guys and girls are now starting to adopt the sweet gesture and use it to their advantage.
Of course, this flirting body language sign of attraction can also backfire. For one, it can surprise them if they are suddenly being offered the spoon. Such instances can result in awkwardness. If you find yourself unable to eat from the other person’s fork, simply take the utensil for yourself to avoid embarrassment.
Flirting Body Language # 2: Preening Material
When a woman leans in close to fix a man’s tie, there is a high probability that she is flirting with him. This flirting body language sign of attraction implies that she wants that man to look his best and that she wants to do that for him alone – to nurture and protect him.
Men also have their own version of the tie-fixing action. Notice that they often tuck a few stray strands of a woman’s hair behind her ear or simply let their fingers glide through them.
Flirting Body Language # 3: Goodnight Kiss
Friends or acquaintances who kiss you goodnight could also be a flirting body language sign of attraction. These people would like to know you better and would like to step over their usual boundaries.
It could be a light peck on the cheek or perhaps even a kiss on your hand. While guys tend to be more daring, girls are also stealing their share of kisses as well.
Flirting body language has certainly developed over the years – and not surprisingly so. After all, man has evolved from convening in caves to meeting up in bars and parties. It’s time for you to open your eyes and look to the future as well.
M Lee
Body Language Tips & Tricks
Forget all about pick-up lines. There out. Dead in the water. Instead, you look for to focus on mastering the art of body gobbledygook flirting. When used properly, it is more powerful than anything you may say to a woman. This is an incredibly powerful application for seduction. Here’s why. Body Language Flirting
First, you can communicate with a woman even if she is on the other side of the room. Second, a woman will feel more at ease if she is getting signals from you that you’re interested. Women hate rejection just as much, if not more, than we do.
The following are three examples of body language flirting that you can use:
Body Language Tip #1 – Smile and Be “Open”
Avoid being the guy sitting by himself, looking mean at the bar. The room could be full of single women looking for a man to talk to, but if you’re not presenting yourself as being approachable you’ll never get a shot.
Make a point of making eye contact with women. Always smile and greet them as they walk by, even if you aren’t necessarily interested. This will let those who may be watching you know that you are friendly and willing to talk. Keep from crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets. Relaxed body language will make those around you feel more relaxed as well. Working to keep your body language open and friendly will greatly increase your chances of meeting a woman. Body Language Flirting
Body Language Tip #2 – Use the Wink… But Sparingly
There’s a right way and a wrong way to wink. Doing it the right way will quickly spark a woman’s interest. Doing it the wrong way can be more than a little creepy for her. The technique is simple – make sure to smile first.
Using a wink works well when you aren’t necessarily able to approach her. Using the smile and wink will effectively let her know that you are interested in finding out more about her. Don’t be surprised if you find a woman who is bold enough to approach you after using this tip!
Just remember that once is enough. More than that and you’ll start moving into the creepy zone.
Body Language Tip #3 – The Head Tilt
With this tip, you’ll tilt your head toward her when she says something interesting. This is just a slight tilt and not a bow. Subtlety is key. This tip is good for letting a woman know that you find her interesting without using a lot of facial expression. Body Language Flirting
When used properly, these tips will help you meet and build a rapport with more women. Start taking actions to Change your social life forever! Get your Body Language Flirting now.
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Body Language And Dating
The singles dating scene can be overwhelming at times. When you put yourself out there and try to meet new people you can start to wonder if you are doing it right. If you have been out of the game for a while it can be scary to get back in the dating pool. Body language and dating go hand in hand. If you have the right body language you will have a date in no time.
Body language can also cause you to lose a potential date. If someone walks up to you to start a conversation and you are not giving off the right kind of body language they will take that as you not being interested. Body language can be very sexy and quite a turn on when done correctly.
When you are being approached by a man or woman while you are out and you are interested in them then you should try a few of the basic sexy body language techniques that tell the other person you are indeed interested. The first one is simple when talking to them just lean forward slightly. This lets the other person know that you are interested in what they are saying.
Another easy but effective body language technique is causal touching. When in the middle of a conversation lightly place your hand over the other persons for just a moment or touch their arm or leg but only for a brief moment. Too much touching can come off as being pushy.
Some of the bad body language signals are leaving the conversation often. Do not leave to go to the restroom or make a phone call more than once or twice because the other person will feel that you have lost interest. You also want to make sure that you are making eye contact when in a conversation. If you are looking every where but at the person speaking to you they will feel that you are interested in everyone but them.
When using body language just right it can be very sexy for both the male and the females. Things can get quite intense when using body language so be careful if you are not ready to take things too far. Sex is the first thing that comes to mind when body language is used just right.
An important technique for the men to use is when you are walking with a woman lightly put your hand on the small of her back as if to lead her. This is a very intimate touch that will have her heart racing. Now for the women, the best technique for you to use on him is to hold on to his bicep just for a moment when talking or to lightly place your hand flat against his chest. This will drive him crazy with desire for you.
Another great tip for men and women, if you are in a crowded and loud place lean forward and whisper in their ear. Be sure to speak slowly and breath lightly into their ear. Both sexes love this spin tingling move, which is a great way to step things up when the time is right.
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